Dating in Europe for couples and unconventional relationship formats
Gramsy is a dating platform for people in unconventional relationship formats: couples looking for a third, swingers, polyamorous families, the BDSM scene, LGBTQ+. These are overlapping communities that mainstream dating apps don't fit.
Sign up from any country in Europe — your profile is visible across the region, and many couples and singles regularly travel between countries for meet-ups. For Spain, Germany and France we've also published detailed overviews of the local scene.
🇪🇸 Spain
One of Europe's most open countries. Swing clubs in Barcelona and Madrid have been running for decades, polyamorous communities along the coast are well-established, and the LGBTQ+ neighbourhoods of major cities are well-known across Europe. Substantial English-speaking expat presence, especially on the Costa del Sol and in Barcelona.
🇩🇪 Germany
Berlin is one of Europe's centres for the swing, fetish and queer scene, with venues operating since the 1990s. Munich, Hamburg and Cologne have their own active private-event cultures. An open attitude towards unconventional formats is built into everyday life in major German cities.
🇫🇷 France
Parisian "libertinage" is not marketing — it has been part of the city's fabric since the 18th century. Members-only swing clubs in central Paris, an active poly and BDSM scene, the Côte d'Azur with its international events. Lyon and Marseille are independent centres with their own distinct scenes.
🇮🇹 Italy
Italy combines a centuries-old private libertine tradition in its major cities with a progressive alternative scene around Bologna — historically the country's most active hub for queer culture since Arcigay was founded there in 1985. Rome and Milan host long-running members-only swing clubs and private events; Naples and Florence have their own active local circles. The scene is mature but operates more privately than in northern Europe — knowing the right entry points matters.
